Boy howdy. Its difficult to follow the amazing guest post from last week’s Who I want to Be Wednesday, but I guess I’ll try.
A couple weeks ago in this segment I highlighted how I manage my stress. I talked about trying to leave my trouble’s in other’s hands and not worry so much.
Its all very good advice. So, last week while I was out of the house my husband did a lot of cleaning. I came home and was verys urprised. Here, a large item on my to-do list has been lifted from my shoulders and that was wonderful!… right?
But I didn’t feel like it was wonderful. I felt awful. I felt terribly guilty for having shirked my responsibility and for his intervening on my behalf. Because of this guilt I was still stressed, still overwhelmed and I wasn’t nearly as greatful and appreciative as I should have been for my husband’s help.
I added this guilt to the long list of things that were bothering me. (I literally wrote a list, so I could remember to share it with my psycologist.) Armed with this list of all of the things I was failing at, I sat down in the cozy office and spilled my guts. I listed failing after failing. I told him how awful I felt that I wasn’t keeping up with my own demands. I told him that I’d shirked my duties. I told him that my husband even had to clean!
Casually, he interjected, “Yeah, but you’re worth it.”
I was stunned. I had literally, never thought of it that way. I’m so busy thinking of all the things I do for the people around me because they are worth it, I never considered they would think the same about me.
Sure enough, when I spoke to my husband about his help, he agreed that he didn’t think it was a big deal. He knew that I was busy and he wanted to help me because I’m worth it.
So moms out there- take that to heart. Your families and friends are worth ever but of effort, love and time you devote to them. But it works both ways. Relax! You’re worth it!
Kayla Domeyer
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